I am so happy for you??

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I have often felt angered, while also working compassionately to maintain curiosity, regarding the seemingly senseless attempts and behaviours employed by humans to essentially suppress happiness in others. Especially senseless and confusing when we consider the well-established and commonly used phrase “I am so happy for you” included within our cultural dialogue. What the?? Of course, it elicits the question of why? Not only to gain freedom from such nonsense, but also to hopefully allow unawareness to choose paths and strategies in greater alignment with what may indeed be lasting solutions to the quest.

So why, when a person may observe happiness in others, does it create discomfort? Moreover, why may they decide to move forward with actions which bore illusions that the existence of happiness has been squashed? Surely and sanely, would one not want to learn the actions leading to a smile? A smile that does not require the continual and exhausting consumption of financial wealth, new products and the impeding threat of an earthquake apparently being avoided through one’s control of the elements.

Greed, envy, jealousy. But more accurately, sadness, hurt and fear. Short term harbouring is actually quite successful…for the people who choose ignorance over self-awareness. However, their discomfort has not disappeared. The energies are being held by those who seek truth, awareness, freedom and peace…for all. Fair? Not really. Although, it is accepted and recognised that war is not won through war. Through my own experiences, when I choose to fight and retaliate, the results I sought do not manifest. And when I have chosen to explore, process and dissolve my own sadness, hurt and fear, long term release has been established, crucially noting the ongoing affair, with particular attention given to the saviour archetype which has fed my attempts at control.

So while some may be holding discomfort for unawareness, in essence they are providing a band aid for the imminent flood, carrying with it much shame, the miseducation of how to love, the production of a dream which sells never ending consumption, happiness determined as fleeting, and generations of pain, all of which have been guided, reinforced, maintained and integrated by our care givers and more concerning, leaders of nations.

Instead of enlisting humans with band aid duty, wounds are well equipped to attain health and balance when exposed in honesty, humility and courage. If faced with rejection, this can allow us to adopt the road of mindful and wise combat. To continue in warrior mode, employ peaceful revoke, generate self-awareness and maintenance, until we are introduced to acceptance.

I have spent countless hours in search of explanations for why humans hurt other humans. When I have found something to blame, there is always a further layer. To arrive at a solution, I think would disempower the excitement and discoveries of new knowledge yet to be learned. It is my current understanding that we experience fear as a response to difference. It is also my understanding that humanity shares inherent similarity. So perhaps our perception of difference is somewhat inaccurate?

One’s happiness is not and cannot be a bottled product available for consumption. It would turn rotten. Rather, let’s observe openly, honestly and with humble grace so as to learn happiness, where most certainly we may be able to authentically express to our fellow humans “I am so happy for you”.